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[–]reluctant_commenter 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Dunno, but I've had people (my age, early 20s) tell me I'm a stick-the-mud for not using tinder, lol. I don't really get it either, it's very hard for me to be drawn to pictures and descriptions without actually having some context for the person, hearing them talk, etc. Guess I will just be single for a while, hahaha. I don't mind waiting longer, I am not in a rush.

[–]FrostyNugsI'm allergic to nuts 20 insightful - 7 fun20 insightful - 6 fun21 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

My tinder experience has gone like this:

  1. Match with some girl

  2. Forget whatever clever opener I thought of when I swiped right on her

  3. Commence awkward small talk that goes nowhere

  4. Repeat this several times a day until giving up

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

RIP haha, that sounds rough. I think it's a great idea in theory, but it requires a) initiative b) mutual interest in actually pursuing something.

I have heard people saying (and read survey stats suggesting) that many people on dating apps are actually not looking to date or even hookup, but rather as a way of getting validation for their pictures. It takes a degree of vulnerability to be actually in the game, and I'd imagine it feels kind of shitty to have that element in the mix.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, I'm pretty sure plenty of people, especially women, are there just to have others people tell them they're great lol But still for a lesbian, there is no better way

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean, I got my last girlfriend without a dating app. I do have a lot of acquaintances who are LGB though, and I'm sure that's not an option for someone living rurally, for example.