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[–]peaked2020 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That happens with everything... a lot of girls also don’t think they are gay and think they just don’t want a marriage. Or that they just don’t want children... or that they just think kissing isn’t so interesting. Or that they simply prefer to focus on school... or that nobody is good enough for them... or that they are too busy... the mind will find many ways to not understand that it’s different from others, going under the normal society’s rules.

None of this means that we need to include all of these communities in LGB.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oof, I had some awareness of my attraction to girls/women (that I kept trying to downplay), and I still cycled through all of those thoughts for a long-ass time before putting off the inevitable conclusion that I was gay. I knew I wasn't asexual though. I just didn't understand why I couldn't feel any of those things toward boys/men, and thought that was just a problem for me to get over and a symptom of something else. You're right, I was trying to find normal ways to justify why I wasn't different from everyone else I knew. Just one more reason I will never understand the blue-haired queers.

And adding to that list, "I'm just really focused on my friends right now. . . . who are all girls."