This sounds like a joke post but it's unfortunately not.
((My last post on s/gendercritical can provide any context if you want it - about my friend living in la la land.))
I was pretty much virtually intervention'd lately by my friends recently, they said they've been noticing I can say sort of "terf"y things and maybe be unintentionally ignorant about trans people.
Okay. The problem is I'm not ignorant, I know how I feel. I know how I feel about feminism especially, and about lgb issues especially, and how the tq conflicts. But unfortunately it still stands that though I did not make my friends in lgb(tq) spheres, they are all followers of lgb(tq) rhetoric. This is the truth I am living with. My friends wouldn't stand for my true viewpoints. And considering where I live, the chance any new friends will either is very slim.
I feel I have no other option than to just be... what, a little more tolerant? More knowledgable?... I can't help but feel like I already have a strong sense of reality that's unshakable, but the fact still stands that... this is happening. Trans people are here, and my friends either love them or consider themselves to be one. Every person my age I meet in my area is the same, either loves them or is one.
For all the ranting I do on the internet, this is my real life. What can I do? I guess I need to accept that nonbinary people are real the same way money is real. I need to accept that my friends notice when I call a transwoman "they" and not "she" and it's a problem...
I don't know, I'm just sort of spilling out my consciousness. Is anyone out there at all in the same boat?
1) these are my closest friends for years, it's not as easy as "drop them and find smarter friends" because 2) this is literally the reality of where I live. Everybody is like this, they move here to be like this. It's inescapable.
How do I reprogram myself? Not to believe in complete nonsense but to, I don't know... I guess at least believe them?? And stop getting so uncomfortable and mad everytime someone wants to talk about trans things?? Because fuck it's here to stay at least for me.
Help.
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