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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Being bi or especially lesbian is "sexy" for women, but being bi for men is a stigma.

To my everlasting regret! :( Esp. as a bi woman whose "sexual preference" is best described as "other bisexuals"... not that I turn up my nose at straight guys or lesbians, mind; it's just that my fellow "both/and"-ers get... special consideration.

And, to expand on your observation: I suspect this is due to the fact that, since people so often believe bisexuality doesn't even exist, we're understood as either gay or straight. Typically bi women are classified as the latter (slutty and/or freaky enough to cater to male threesome-fantasies), and bi men as the former (closet cases).

As a result, bi women = sexy (to straight men)... and bi men = stigmatized (to straight women, who regard them as gay, and thus best avoided, dating-wise).

Funny how, either way, it's always the dick-loving (as opposed to ladybits-loving) side of our nature that ends up defining us, isn't it?