I've come to accept that the narrative that a large chunk of latebloomerlesbians are straight people (both men and women) roleplaying as "queer" is true. I don't know the breakdown, but actual lesbians are definitely a minority there, and we aren't going to stick around because that place feels like the uncanny valley. Bi women or bi-curious women who are bored in their marriages are a bigger chunk of the population. They're more likely to stick around there. And very lost and lonely straight women, often single moms going through some mid-life or identity crisis are way over-represented there. They see being gay as a cure to having an unfulfilling love life. They probably won't stick around long-term because as soon as they try out being a "lesbian" IRL they're going to realize their fantasy is not a reality. Ifeel bad for them somewhat, but I feel worse for their kids.

I am an actual LBL and I couldn't stomach hanging around there. There's nothing for me there. I want to be around actual lesbians just living their lives not people who are trying to shoehorn themselves into an "identity" and wear gayness as a costume.