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[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 23 insightful - 4 fun23 insightful - 3 fun24 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

That is actually very sad, if they mean such lesbians and not transbians.

There is big problem with such stuff because of lesbian erasure. I knew few lesbians here, where any homosexual content was banned and not available, who started to live together and were lost, because they were not knowing who should be "man" in relationships, and they broke up in a year or so because of similar problems occuring all the time while they were living together. And all is because they never saw any different families, there no information about lesbians, nothing. So they tried to replicate regular family, but none wanted to be "a husband". I was young self-hating lesbian who was trying to run away from my sexual orientation, so was not able to help them too. And help is easy - girls, you are both women, no one should be "a man" there, just be a two wives, that's it.

And I saw similar problems, just on much lesser scale, even in USA/UK and other more liberal countries with legalized same-sex marriages. Lesbians need much more movies, games, literature, sites, so young lesbians will not be freaked out, or will not try replicate porn lesbians (like we did with my first gf, we were lost how to do sex, and we were both very suppressed in our own sexuality, so we went watching porn and replicating it...and it was horrible and very unconvinient), and so on.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

So, homosexuals can be sexist and heteronormative too, after all everyone is the product of the education and culture they are raised in.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

All people are different, so yes, homosexuals can even be homophobic.

But in this case that is not sexism, that is just not knowing how to live as one sex couple, because there no examples and they are just trying to do it the only way they saw.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

I guess that is worst in country with strict gender roles. But just being yourself and not trying to emulate heteros.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You don't know about that as teen or young lesbian, who first exploring this field. How can you know what to do? You see every single movie, read romantic books, see your parents and other people around. They all always doing this way, how can you know that it is wrong way for you two? There no information about that around, even in western world, and especially in more homophobic societies.

just being yourself

Sadly, but nowadays being yourself is often a luxury even in western countries. Especially with this new "gender stereotype" craze.

[–]florasisHOMOSEXUAL FEMALE/Pussy is my God and I'm monotheist 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's right. Having example is very important when you're young.