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[–]indeepshadowsBi woman 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If an asexual is romantically attracted to the same sex (or both sexes), I welcome them. The issues are the same ones as ours, since the random spectator can't know if a same-sex couple is sexual with each other or not. If an asexual is heteroromantically inclined, I don't know why they'd even want to be a part of our community. I think asexuality in itself is a real phenomenon, but it's a non-orientation, unlike homosexuality and bisexuality.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I get what you mean. It sounds like it would be a good idea for them to have their own community to get support from, regardless of whatever else ends up being the case, because they would probably relate to each other a lot more than us, about lack of attraction-- whereas I feel like I can relate to bi women a lot because we are both same-sex attracted.

What do you think about asexuals who are also aromantic?

Thanks for sharing your opinion!

[–]indeepshadowsBi woman 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Anytime. :)

I'm definitely all for them establishing their own community. I'm sure romantic asexuals and aromantic ones have a ton of common ground! If my memory doesn't fail me, I think they already have a group like that, called AVEN or something?

I think I can more easily relate to being only asexual than being aromantic, since I can't imagine my life without romantic love. But I can imagine it without sex, funnily enough. Not that I'm asexual myself, but sex has never been a huge priority for me. I also think aromantic people might not relate to the core problem a lot of same-sex attracted people have: getting to love who we love.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I think that's the one! I know there are some communities for them. I just worry about them getting sidelined because of the trans debate. I feel pretty sure that the T should be dropped from LGB, but I feel less sure about whether that logically makes sense for asexuals, so I've started trawling for people's perspectives.

That's really interesting. I'm more the opposite. I feel like it is much harder to relate to someone who doesn't feel a sex drive, because it's like an entire other dimension to a relationship that they don't have experience or context before. As a behavior (living without sex), it's much easier to relate, for me.

I'm not sure if this is me just me, but to me, romantic feelings are pretty much necessarily tied to sex (and vice versa). I don't really get what the difference is between an intense, life-changing platonic friendship and an intense romantic relationship without a sexual component. I haven't spent a ton of time reading about it though, yet. :)