DiscussionHow did you discover you were homo/bisexual?

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[–]LasagnaRossa 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've always known I felt the same feelings for boys and girls when I was a teen, but the internalized homophobia was so strong that I denied the homosexual attraction. At first I thought I was a straight girl who was able to get crushes on girls too. I even though that everybody deep enough felt the same as me, so I wasn't the exception, I was the rule.

I also had a phase where I thought I was asexual. The line of thought was: "well, I feel the same for both genders and I definitely am not attracted to girls, so I must be asexual".

When I got a boyfriend, he noticed I wasn't behaving like a straight person and told me.

Now I happily embrace it, but accepting myself has been quite a journey.

[–]indeepshadowsBi woman[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I could have written this myself, aside from the boyfriend part. I tried to identify as an asexual, too, but eventually had to admit it wasn't right. I'm over thirty and I still feel like I'm working through some internalized homophobia; partly why I decided to write this post. I used to draw a lot as a teenager, and I always hid the art I'd made of women/girls I was attracted to, because I was sure my family could tell from the pictures that they were made while thirsty. :D I was sure if I'd let my homosexual attraction run free, I'd never look at a man again. Little did I know, it doesn't work like that for bisexuals.