Targeting / HarassmentGuy posts about social pressure that lead to partner's suicide as a reason to have LGB exclusive forums. GenderCynical poster only shows the last 2 paragraphs out of 6, removing all context relating to his partner.

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[–]markiemarcus 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I really am doing okay. The nightmares are a persistent reflex that I could do without, but you learn a routine for bringing yourself back to earth. Though I avoided them entirely for 5-6 years after, it was tough on new relationships. Takes a strong guy to not freak out. Yes, IIRC there was some degree of concern at the time regarding the addition. Complicated problems usually require bespoke solutions and I think it would be fair to say that Stonewall aren't really up to that these days. I take serious issue with some of their "literature" actually and Queer will always be a slur to me. It also doesn't appear to mean anything based on how I see it used; it's everything but also nothing.

I try to focus on the good trans role models. The loudest voices are always, without fail, the dumbest. That first commenter is actually a sweetheart in his PMs, once he realised what had happened. But this is the danger with these heavily moderated subs. People need dissenting views to grow as people and they're not getting that; it's a key component of the human experience. Things like ASD are definitely overrepresented and that explains some of the lack of empathy, but not all of it. The rest of it is cultivated by social media and heavily moderated interactions IMO; they don't have to be accountable for their antisocial behavior.

It's clear as day to anybody outside of that bubble, but when you're in it and you don't realise it?

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, there are still some good people on these forums whose perceptions are being warped by these shameful misrepresentations. I mean, look how many up-votes that post got. It should've been removed by the mods out of pure embarrassment once it was proved misleading. Instead, they doubled down. It's like an AA group where instead people just congratulate each other on their alcoholism and how many random fights they instigated that day. Certainly antisocial behaviour and I think you may be on to something with your ASD remark.

I'm sorry to hear about the anguish you had to go through and still are being affected by; It's tragic how your partner never got the safe, sympathetic community he really needed in life. Hopefully we can make enough of a difference now and in the future so others will never reach that point of hopelessness.