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[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

When I first came out, we called it our sexual orientation. That never changed.

Transpeople changed it for us to eliminate our sexuality. They started calling it a preference. That infuriates me. If it were a simple choice, wouldn’t we like to be heterosexual? I will speak for myself: my life would have been much easier if I had had a choice. I was literally disowned by my parents and written out of their will for being a lesbian. This is a gut-level pain for me.

Regardless of what hardships our sexuality has caused us, sexuality is not a preference or a choice.

No, homosexuality and bisexuality is not simply a preference. It is our sexual orientation.

[–]notdelusionalbased faggot 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

For me, I don't know if my homosexuality is the result of choice. But I'm not concerned about it either way.

I've been asked if it were possible to become straight, would I do so? No, I would not. That's a choice.

But I like the term orientation because it offers room for nuance whereas preference infers nothing other than a choice.