[Particularly] Lesbians of s/GC: would (could) you date a girl with pro-trans views? Is trans support a red flag in LGB circles?

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[–]soundsituation 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

If we're talking about someone who has really thought through all of this and is still pro-QT, no. I wouldn't respect her, so that's a non-starter. It's not just the magical thinking because I have dated religious women with no problem; it's the failure/unwillingness to see the incredible damage of things like self-ID, child transing and the chilling totalitarianism of the whole movement.

Any strategies for finding the sane pockets of LGB when navigating dating here in the post-homosexual era?

Nobody likes my dating strategy because it entails long stretches of singledom, but I like to get to know people organically (during which time you can assess their views on all kinds of things) before considering them romantically.

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still pro-QT, no. I wouldn't respect her, so that's a non-starter.

Yeah, this is kind of where I am with it, honestly - done playing magical thinking (love that phrase, use it all the time to describe T ideology) and therapist to what's shown itself to be the most obnoxious and entitled group of adult children on the planet. I have more productive things to actually do in life than signal my pretend support for a pretend marginalized social group, whose "characteristic" has nothing to do with my sexuality.

As for the unwillingness, I think most of the people who re/act this way (i.e. stubbornly continue to support despite being shown the Geiger counter because "there are worse things than radiation") do so in a way that involves conscious choice/ignorance and some level of self-satisfaction. Without commenting too much further on social justice generally, I've seen this attitude pop up again and again in that context - "it doesn't matter if this causes damage, I've been told that holding these beliefs is virtuous" - and I cannot stand that as a worldview.

my dating strategy...like to get to know people organically

Agreed 100%, though this isn't really a...priority...for most gay men. Bumble's probably the best bet for gay guys. I know HER was originally the go-to for lesbians, but its packed with more penises than Grindr these days.