The worst part (for them) is that they often look clownish or nightmare-ish. I was in a Trader Joes, about three years ago, and this guy emerged from the bathroom.

He was about 6'2" without the 4" heels he was wearing. He was young -probably mid-twenties, -and would have made an extremely handsome, masculine-looking man. Broad shoulders, athletic physique - he looked like he'd maybe played football.

He was wearing an expensive women's blouse, it looked like green silk, with a built-in knotted tie type thing, and a black pencil skirt. With a matching jacket it would have been the sort of power-outfit female lawyers used to wear in the 80s or 90s (can't remember my decades)

He had long brown, healthy hair, and his makeup wasn't too extreme.

But the whole effect was jarring. Here was this linebacker-looking, handsome young man dressed like a character in the movie "9 to 5"

I saw another guy in another Trader Joe's in a different city. (What is it w Trader Joe's and TiMs? - I've seen three) This was an older man wearing a tank top and a short, flippy skirt. He had shoulder length dyed blonde hair, kind of garish makeup, and was a bit overweight.

Whereas the first guy walked and behaved like a bull in a china shop, this guy was trying his best to seem "feminine," but he just made me sad. A bunch of little kids were laughing and pointing, but I think he didn't see them.

I'm all for people wearing what they want, if it's not revealing or whatever, but I have to say, every time I see a TiM I feel like they're appropriating my oppression. And I'm way too old to use those terms ;-)