yeah I've noticed fandom spaces are absolutely plagued by this garbage now. all the self-hating straight women (often married) who fetishise gay male rships (not actual gay male of course - straight men they find attractive and then awkwardly 'ship') as a conduit for self insertion without feeling like they're competing with another woman are all calling themselves 'enby' and all the 'characterxreader' self-insert fics use 'gender neutral pronouns' even though they can't avoid describing female body parts with the accepted language. so somehow they're not made dysphoric reading sexual fiction describing male and female body parts interacting with each other, but use the pronouns she/her and all of a sudden it's toottaaallllyyyyy inaccessible to them and they can't RELATE.

I've noticed a huge uptick in people starting to pursue transition after immersing themselves in fandoms where they become wholly invested in fantasising about opposite sex characters and pretty obviously use it as a way to detach from painful realities. people have already observed this in TIMs who love anime of course, but it's huge amongst TIFs heavily invested in slash fandoms too. internalised misogyny in female-heavy fandoms projected outward onto other women has long been a problem in those spaces, but now it's being obfuscated by the trans narrative. women can deny their own misogyny by simply saying they are trans and slash is just the only expression of their sexuality that really validates it.

it'a not a hobby for them. it's an escape from a reality they loathe and they want to drag the rest of us down into fantasy with them. it's very hard when you just want to have a good time.