Whiny -- I feel as though all my hobby spaces are now impromptu venues for gender-centric therapy

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[–]persistentlywoman 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

yeah I've noticed fandom spaces are absolutely plagued by this garbage now. all the self-hating straight women (often married) who fetishise gay male rships (not actual gay male of course - straight men they find attractive and then awkwardly 'ship') as a conduit for self insertion without feeling like they're competing with another woman are all calling themselves 'enby' and all the 'characterxreader' self-insert fics use 'gender neutral pronouns' even though they can't avoid describing female body parts with the accepted language. so somehow they're not made dysphoric reading sexual fiction describing male and female body parts interacting with each other, but use the pronouns she/her and all of a sudden it's toottaaallllyyyyy inaccessible to them and they can't RELATE.

I've noticed a huge uptick in people starting to pursue transition after immersing themselves in fandoms where they become wholly invested in fantasising about opposite sex characters and pretty obviously use it as a way to detach from painful realities. people have already observed this in TIMs who love anime of course, but it's huge amongst TIFs heavily invested in slash fandoms too. internalised misogyny in female-heavy fandoms projected outward onto other women has long been a problem in those spaces, but now it's being obfuscated by the trans narrative. women can deny their own misogyny by simply saying they are trans and slash is just the only expression of their sexuality that really validates it.

it'a not a hobby for them. it's an escape from a reality they loathe and they want to drag the rest of us down into fantasy with them. it's very hard when you just want to have a good time.

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    [–]persistentlywoman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

    my observation of the overlap between these communities makes me wonder just how far off we are from some people giving furries and others some legitimacy in their form of dissociation. the current pseudo-science formed by people pretending to have the disorder in insular virtual communities around DID, for example, is rapidly gaining traction in some material spaces, just as the 'ace spectrum' has. both I would've argued a few years ago would never be taken seriously by people more grounded in reality. a lot of the DID nonsense about 'alters' and 'switching' etc comes straight from roleplaying communities I saw functioning on tumblr ten years ago. there's a lot of overlap in the rhetoric and concepts from those spaces, and the current trans narratives - a lot of overlap between participants too. a loooooooooooooot of overlap. people participating in the trans community are often also in the ace community, the roleplaying communities, the autism communities, the furry communities, the fringe kink communities (littles, adult babies, vore etc), the DID communities... there's a reason we all have a checklist of stated attributes we anticipate them revealing. watching people deeply invested in the DID nonsense argue that their 'black alters' should be allowed to use racial slurs even if their 'host body' is white and be defended for it makes me nervous about how far these and other outrageous concepts are from emerging into the real world, just as the trans narrative has. it seems impossible to believe that any decent person would take the concept of being 'transracial' seriously, but isn't that what happened with transgender? somehow a whole lot of people got roped into it. I no longer take any of it for granted, no matter how ridiculous it obviously is. these movements work insidiously.