Being pressured to put pronouns in my bio

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[–]Femaleisnthateful 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I feel this.

I've noticed senior managers at my work doing this as well, and I recall a blog post from a gay male manager with a particular interest in sexuality and gender identity issues (seriously, he brings it up constantly) encouraging staff to put their pronouns in their bio. I keep my gender critical beliefs quiet at work, but this will be my line in the sand, and I have been thinking a lot about how to formulate a response if I am ever confronted with the issue.

I think a good strategy with both your work and your woke friends is to simply state that your sexuality and gender identity is nobody's business but your own. Feel free to conflate the two, because they obviously do. Tell them their persistence makes you feel harassed.

I think there's a valid argument to be made that women are subject to gender-based (however you want to define 'gender') discrimination in the workplace, and forcing women to publicize their 'gender identity' (again, that means different things to different people) opens us unnecessarily to bias and discrimination. I shouldn't be compelled to publicly identify my race, religion or sexuality, so why should I be compelled to disclose my gender identity?

Honestly, I hope someone files a lawsuit over this at some point.

The argument about 'normalising it for trans people' has never held water for me. If we want to normalise something, we should be less obsessive over it, not more.

Here's my analogy: body positivity. We want everyone to feel comfortable in their own bodies, right? There are a range of body types and weights and we want to be inclusive of all diverse types of bodies, right? So let's all go around and state how much we each weigh. This will normalize marginalized bodies, right? Maybe we can have discussions about which body types are privileged or given status over others. So what will be the outcome after we all identify how much we weigh, in every single interaction even when weight is completely irrelevent to the topic of conversation. Will we all revel in our diversity and inclusivity, or will we all have fucking eating disorders?

Anyway, good luck to you. Let us know how it pans out.

[–][deleted] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I shouldn't be compelled to publicly identify my race, religion or sexuality, so why should I be compelled to disclose my gender identity? Honestly, I hope someone files a lawsuit over this at some point.

God I hope so. This is exactly how I feel.

[–]our_team_is_winning 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There are a range of body types and weights and we want to be inclusive of all diverse types of bodies, right? So let's all go around and state how much we each weigh.

That's probably coming. You'll see in-shape people deliberately piling on pounds to be "allies" to the obese.

[–]SanityIsGC 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I shouldn't be compelled to publicly identify my race, religion or sexuality, so why should I be compelled to disclose my gender identity?

Excellent point.