<When most people say "woman" they are refering to gender (because they aren't talking about arbitraty sex organ differences).>

First I have to ask (sorry if you said and I missed it): Is this a gay man you know in real life? Or only online? If this is online, I think this could be a woman with a gay man fetish and she is role playing.

If this is a bona fide gay MALE, real male, not TQ+ then he's just parroting the narrative. Just the other day in one of these forums someone had posted about a transman saying gay men were "vagina phobic" and I said I didn't think gay men were afraid of vaginas, just not interested. And a gay man responded to me that actually he IS grossed out by them. Kai, you're the gay male here, not me, you tell me if gay men are attracted to men's bodies or just men's clothing! If someone wanted to set you up on a date with a woman, I think you'd pass because that's not the body you want. Your first thought would not be "oh a woman, you mean a man who acts a certain way"!

Don't let people on the internet gaslight you.