The thing is tho, why does this conversation have to be had in reverse? Particularly before we even had any conversation in the direction it started? That’s the type of stuff woc mean when we talk about “white feminism”. You don’t have to flip everything to make it about you and how you’re also a victim.

The discussion was “black men being fetishized by white women”. I say, “this oppressed group is fetishized by some of the people who oppress them” you say “sOMe oF tHe oPreSsEd pEopLe Do iT toO!!!” I never said they didn’t. I also, unlike you, understand why and understand that racism contributes to why some black men “do it too.” I’m not excusing them. They aren’t fetishizing you because they think you have a tighter vagina or because they think you’ll love them better- they do it because of the dynamics between white and black people, and being with a white woman can feel like approval or acceptance. It can feel like status. It can stem from self hatred. Because they’ve been taughtthat white women are the standard for women and that black women are too strong or less feminine. There’s so much behind it that you don’t seem to acknowledge. Is this true for white Women fetishizing black men? Or do they just think black men have big dicks and lots of stamina? Do you really not understand the difference? Like- my whole point is you’re calling out snl for mentioning something that actually does happen and your post came across as if you don’t think it does happen, or that it should be okay or not called out because females as a sex are oppressed. my point -my only point- is that black men being fetishized by white women is a thing that happens and it’s worth calling out when it does. You can absolutely talk about your experiences- your experience is not that of a black man being fetishized by a white woman so it wouldn’t have been relevant to what I was talking about. So, unless you’ve been either the black man being fetishized or the white woman fetishizing him, you haven’t been in this exact situation. So why the need to immediately reverse the conversation to the white woman being the victim of fetishizing? Why not actually address what I said? This is a thing that happens, it’s a thing that causes issues in my community, it’s a thing that contributes to racism and has an impact on dynamics between black men and black women and I’m glad that the white women who fetishize black men are being called out. There are repercussions and side effects of this fetish for black people of both sexes, are there for white people? What are they?