So I did fall into the trans mess when all my friends did (I was nonbinary for a year). None of my other friends have detransitioned. Everyone is a full blown TRA.

I think for me it's because I had a lot of chance to hear differing views. I was raised by the internet and my very conservative church. So I was very used to hearing differing views. There was a point I was both an active tumblr user and an active /r/tumblrinaction user lol. My private high school also had a lot of logic and philosophy courses.

I still fell into the bandwagon, but even then, I was way more critical than others. I tried to dismiss my opinions bc they were considered transphobic, but eventually I couldn't anymore.

I think there's a problem with society where we can no longer have debates or discussions about anything at all. Anything is immediately touted as somethingphobic. And I think I managed to escape that with my upbringing. For example, Gay rights? I heard why it's bad from my family/church and heard why it's good from the internet and others, and decided for myself that I support gay rights. This is true for a lot of subjects. I try to understand the other side and why they believe in what they do. Unfortunately, trying to do that makes you a phobe or whatever.

Nowadays people are told "if you're not this, then youre a bad person, and if anyone is this, you should hate them and never listen to them". It's exhausting.