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[–]jelliknight 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do feel like I'm wasting my youth

It's a terrible feeling. I sometimes have the feeling that I'm wasting time. It is so precious. Go and have fun, doing anything. And if you don't know how to have fun, just go out and be around other people. Have experiences, even if they're all bad ones it's still worthwhile.

...she's more woman than me

Woman isn't a scale. You can't be more or less. My mentor (70+) says to me "There's no wrong way, only your way."

That bra story, oof. Yeah I get it. I wish you had a cool aunt or someone who could take you. Bra sizes are pretty variable depending on cut. They're supposed to be a "measurement" but there's a lot of wiggle in different styles. I tried on 10 recently before i found one that fitted properly, and needed different sizes in different brands. I know it's a bit too intimidating to go into a lingerie store for a fitting. There are online fit guides you can look at. Basically get the band comfortable first so that it's going straight around and not pulling up at the back or digging in too tight, then try different cup sizes (A, B, C etc) with the same band size. And it's just about what's comfortable to you. if it's technically not how it's supposed to fit but it feels and looks great, buy that one. And try the lingerie section of a bigger store like a walmart, that way it won't specify what you're buying. Your parents are a bit weirdly uncomfortable about normal stuff like underwear lol. I'm guessing you have a large cup and small band? They can be hard to find.

everyone else belongs more than I

Haha, i just had a discussion with a friend recently about being a teenager and always feeling like there was a massive party happening off somewhere where the cool people all go and you were the only one not invited, but since I've been an adult I've never met anyone who was actually AT that awesome party, I've only ever met people who were also 'not invited'. In reality its just a pretty universal feeling. It's made worse today by the internet and people not actually going and connecting with each other. You can have 1000 online friendships and you'll still feel very alone. Real life friendships are irreplaceable.