Somehow when people voice their weird views it's easier because we can talk with them and face it. Kids have called me a 'boy' and 'tomboy' and 'why do you have short hair'. Kids are the ones voicing those things more of course. I have explained I'm not a boy, I have explained I'm not a tomboy, (I don't identfy with that, I think it's an unnecessary label), it's only harder to explain why I have short hair because that's more 'because I like it'. If my mom argued about my short hair I could always argue against it - although it's hard to make a proper discussion out of hair. But now I'm mostly imagining that people are thinking it! Even more effed up - and more questionable if I am imagining their thoughts or not.

I used to struggle with fitting in. It was exhausting.

Thanks for your words - and sharing your experience. It's really good to hear about people who don't shave. It's very useful to help me feel less alone.

Don't live your life to make other people happy or you'll be miserable.

I don't know if I can follow this fully, but I will be challenging myself to try and question when I am making decisions.

I started shamelessly liking what I like. When I started pursuing my interests I started finding women with those interests who I clicked well with.

I need to find what things I like :) whenever I start sharing likes with other people I tend to stop feeling as free when I make them because I'm thinking of other people and what they'd think or if I really like it or if I just do them to fit in. Or even if I lose those friends, I lose the passion in those things. Even if I started without them. It has sort of happened a bit before (not all of those happened to the same interests and hobbies, some only just parts apply). It's weird.

Sorry this is all over the place lol thank you <3