I love how warm & civilized s/Gendercritical is - so this is what a women’s space feels like

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[–]SameOldBS 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

It's also much more welcoming than Mumsnet, which I've found very cliquey and hard to break into.

[–]MarkTwainiac 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

That's so interesting. I've been on the Mumsnet feminism/women's rights board for years, and I've found it to be a model of civility. Sometimes it's snarky, and there's a lot of swearing, but the overall tone is very civil. The women there strike me as extremely well informed - sometimes astoundingly so - intelligent, quick-witted, funny, with tons of IRL experience and an understanding of history and different cultures. They are also ace at debating. Sometimes, reading a thread there is like watching Wimbledon tennis.

AIBU and other sections of Mumsnet are another story, though.

But to each her own.

[–]SameOldBS 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sorry, I should have been more specific. I went from lurking to participating there a few months back. I've found the debate to be interesting and civil, yes, but there's a strong sense that if you're not in the clique, you're regarded with some suspicion. I posted something that generated a lot of debate, and one of the main contributors actually questioned in the thread if I was legit or some kind of stooge. So I DMed her and tried to reassure her that I was a real and GC woman and she didn't even reply.

I think it's partly the format which makes it hard to reply to specific people and have a conversation, so it feels like any comment you make gets lost.

Absolutely agree there's some stunningly intelligent and informed people on there though, and I still interact. I just don't find it very friendly.

[–]MarkTwainiac 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My guess is she didn't read the DM. Many of us don't read our DMs on sites like this because they're usually full of horrific abuse.

[–]SameOldBS 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe. But I did reply to her in the thread saying I'd DM her. Anyway, it doesn't matter. I do understand why people would be wary of newcomers. I think there's just more sense of an in group over there than here, perhaps because this is less established.