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[–]tuesday 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You seem to be badgering her and I'm not impressed. For women, feminism isn't just an intellectual exercise. It's a way of analyzing and picking apart all the bad things which happen to us simply because we are female.

Sometimes, the bad things are perpetrated by a gay man. A lot of gay dudes are indeed misogynists, but what's worse than the overt stuff is the way some of them pretend to be "just like us" or "similar to us" and the way they demand that we never ever notice their misogyny lest they withdraw their very conditional support.

I suppose it's hurtful for a gay man to hear, particularly if they themselves wouldn't ever be like that. But there's no reason to get defensive and start badgering a woman who's in the process of trying to understand the dynamics at work.