Well, when I say "fuck you money", I'm talking about having necessary funds on hand so that one may escape abusive spouses, families, jobs, etc.. I personally had the misfortune of being trapped with both an emotionally abusive ex and parents who weren't that much better. My job paid too little for me to survive independently, but "too much" to qualify for welfare. It's hell on earth to be saddled with a kid and dependent on people who treat you like garbage day in and day out. I'm "out" of that situation for the most part, but I'll never reclaim all the youth I wasted because I got knocked up at 26 with a useless bachelor's degree. My stupidity astounds me in hindsight. I stupidly trusted my partner and believed all his promises, which turned out to be total LIES. Many men LIE in order to make sure they have their precious male heirs. It's like a machismo thing to father a child for some men. I figured my partner would provide more support if I went back to school-- WRONGWRONGWRONG. I figured if I hit hard times, there was a social welfare network to help me out. WRONG WRONG WRONG.

Once you're a mother, you are vulnerable to immense family pressure, partner pressure, social pressure, to do nothing but serve others, put all your needs on the back burner, and to throw your future in the trash.