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[–]JoanofArc5 50 insightful - 2 fun50 insightful - 1 fun51 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

How devastating it is to have sex that you don't want to have. It's not the same as doing some other chore you don't want to do, like the laundry. You can't just lie there and say it will be over in a few minutes. Having sex you don't want feels awful. This is our evolutionary wisdom again, because sex can have enormous costs for us (pregnancy).

I dated someone who was coercive about sex and later boyfriends just thought I was crazy/overreacting if I said that I used to bite my tongue, have the sex so my abusive ex wouldn't pick a fight, and then try not to cry the entire time.

[–]MonstrousRegiment 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This one is huge in my opinion and experience. And I think it's another reason (besides pure selfishness) so many are ready to call prostitution "sex work".

[–]Chewedanddigested 33 insightful - 1 fun33 insightful - 0 fun34 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've seen multiple people on reddit compare penetrative sex for money to flipping burgers for money. I don't get how they don't get that literally having your body penetrated is different than having a low wage job. Not to say that capitalism isn't exploitative and abusive. But these things are not equivalent.