I think whether gender can ever truly be abolished depends on the question of how much of gender-based preferences are truly innate versus culturally determined. I don't know the answer. But if there are sex-linked differences, I think gender will always be with us in some form because humans observe and generalize. I know of no examples of cultures that have managed to eradicate all subtle pressures to conform to the general expectation for one's greater identity group.

However, I do think those pressures can be reduced or heightened. I believe we were making great strides to reduce those pressures for both women and men prior to the Tumblr microidentity explosion. I think we are seeing a huge step back.

I wouldn't be on this site if I believed contemporary gender ideology was working as it markets itself. I wish NB people had a good strategy because then I could simply change my pronouns and opt out of sex-based oppression. But it's a fantasy based on the transgender and transhumanist wish (in some cases, delusion) that sexed bodies aren't real. Sexed bodies are real, however. I can call myself agender, but anyone who looks at me knows that I am a woman.