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[–]Spikygrasspod 45 insightful - 2 fun45 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I think normative masculinity can be brutal and crushing. The difference is that when you cave in to the gender policing and perform masculinity correctly, you get significant benefits despite the strain of conformity and the fear of policing. With femininity, the strain and the policing are still there, but the reward you get for compliance is lower status and the rather dubious 'power' of being attractive and wanted. To say it's 'just as bad' is to really look at those two things out of context. Society never stops finding ways to make women's disadvantage invisible again.

[–]missdaisycan 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Superficial beauty is constrained by time and resources $$$$