I was browsing the popular page on reddit earlier and came across a very popular post on unpopularopinions (though it was clearly a popular opinion after reading the comments) saying that telling men to “man up” is just as bad as telling a women to “go back to the kitchen”. I just sighed and felt so fucking depressed. These are NOT the same at all. And I can’t believe there are men out there saying “oh poor me, my life is just as bad as other oppressed people. We’re all oppressed!”
Men. Let me spell out the difference. Women have been treated as second class citizens purely existing to serve men both sexually and through the household for basically all of humanity. Thousands upon thousands of years. You cannot erase that history. We grow up being treated like shit, every day of our lives we experience an unbalanced world in some form. Whether it be being cat called, or seeing a hyper sexual billboard of a naked woman advertising a freaking car, or being belittled by male coworkers because you’re obviously not as smart and rational as them, duh. Being told “go back to the kitchen” is just another way of saying, sit down, know your place, get back to serving us, who do you think you are? You’re just a little girl. And every time, it feels like they’re stabbing an open wound.
I’m not a man. I don’t know what it feels like to be told “man up”. But being told to be more brave or confident sure as hell is not the same thing as being told to be a servant. Men tell men to man up. Men tell women to go to the kitchen. Men are the ones saying all these things. Why do women have to get dragged into this conversation as an antagonist? Of course the comments are all saying “OP I agree! No one should say any of this stuff, men/women it’s all equally bad! Btw do you know how men have a much higher suicide rate??? Yes this is relevant to the conversation!”
(I am not trying to downplay suicide here, I think it’s a very serious topic. But irrelevant to OPs post)
Sometimes I really wish I was born as a man so I wouldn’t give a damn about these things.
EDIT: I replied to the Reddit post saying it wasn’t equally bad and was downvoted. Lol
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