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    [–]gencritcurious[S] 32 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 0 fun33 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    i totally get what you mean! theres a certain power dynamic that is somehow only in fictional mxm relationships— irl i would say its truly closer to a lesbian dynamic, but in fiction its usually men— and that gives these people a skewed vision of real gay men. gay men are still men, for the better or worse, and theres nothing inherently deeper or more special about their lives, despite what media can portray.

    [–]winterwillow 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Exactly! What you write made me think about what it means for lgb teens and lgb culture overall that gay teen fiction is written and consumed by bi/lesbian girls and most lesbian spaces are run by bi/trans girls like actual lesbians.

    It was lonely growing up gay in a rural area, but I found 'my kind' trough fiction and media and in a way I'm strangely grateful that I managed to find a copy of Tipping the Velvet as a 17 year old, instead of a sub filled with aromantics, 'big tiddies', demi girls, sword lesbians and 'please remember some lesbians have dick'. Maybe not so strange many teen lesbians turn to fantasy boys instead.