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I had internalized misogyny that manifested as "not like the other girls" because I resented girls who liked looking more feminine than me, wearing makeup and heels, etc. I developed a close friendship with another girl who was very feminine in her appearance and had interests in fashion and perfume as well as her other interests that we had in common. It made me realize how our culture uses things like makeup and heels to not only objectify is for men but also to make it harder to see each other as real people. I never had a romantic relationship with her but it was the closest non-romantic relationship I've had with another woman and it made me feel more comfortable with my lack of feminine trappings. It was almost like we had a butch/femme dynamic that made it ok for me to inhabit the butch role outside of a lesbian relationship. After that I was much less threatened by other women wearing dramatic makeup or so-called feminine fashion. The solidarity is what matters.