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[–]stitchedlamb 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sometimes I have to wonder if all these "trans masc" young women are turning to gay men because they seem to offer a safer version of masculinity. I know that's not a groundbreaking thought, but I've definitely been laughed at by other women for not being attracted to "masculine enough" type men (she laughed because at the time I was a personal trainer and the guy I fancied was pretty small, so apparently I was only allowed to be into gym rats I guess). Just like men are shamed for not being macho enough, women can get shit from other women for not being turned on by aggression and hyper dominance. But hey, if you're a gay man, you're allowed to date gentle/social/artistic men!

Whoops, there's that toxic gender role thing again.

[–]fireweed 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's just the desire to have sex with a man without the pain of being a woman in that arrangement. I would bet every single last "gay" TIF was sexually abused as a child. It must be a massive relief to think you can just turn into a man and have sex with men as a man. Of course, now they're all seeing the cold truth: gay men want actual men, not women with surgeries and testosterone injections.