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[–]critical_of_WR 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

"I started reading more about feminism and understanding things differently. It’s hard to grow up and not really see other masculine lesbian women. I had put the problem inside myself, when actually it is with how the outside world sees women who don’t conform to feminine norms. I just wanted to be human, neutral, myself. I felt as if the only way I could be myself was to look like a guy."

This is incredibly sad. I feel a lot of TIMs and TIFs are non-gender conforming gay men or gay women who feel ashamed of the fact that they did not conform to heterosexual standards of attractiveness or sexual attractions, so the solution is to be as close to a conventionally attractive member of the opposite sex to cure the dysphoria. It's probably why so many TIMs are concerned with mainstream beauty of wide hips, and big breasts. The problem is after the transition they realize they still aren't men and/or women, and the dysphoria is not truly cured. It is incredibly sad.

[–]worried19 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Not even just lesbians, but a lot of straight girls want out of this pornified conception of womanhood. What girls are being taught in porn and in pop culture is that women are submissive fuck toys for men to abuse, that we're lesser and weaker and the most important thing about us is how feminine and "fuckable" we are.

[–]critical_of_WR 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That and women who may feel that they never had a chance to perform to the pornified version of womanhood. Maybe they didn't have big breasts or blond hair, etc. They may have recognized they were women, but a particular type of womanhood is weaponized and if you don't conform then you have no access to power. Might as well do the next best thing and become a man who has real societal power. Sad.