To your first point, I'm sure someone else can explain it better but here's what I understand: Spinster is part of a greater network of social networks, many of the users on those networks are alt-right, fascist, etc. We've basically been forced to occupy the same spaces as these groups because we've all been censored for our "hateful" views. They do not represent Spinster users in any way. Your example is of a user who is part of a different network. You can tell by the domain, in this case their domain was @gab.com. If you're not sure, just stick to the Spinster (should you decide to create an account again) tab.

Also, I understand why you say you feel you have to lighten the post given the perceived backlash, but I think you should be angry if that's your lived experience. As women, we're always made to feel bad or mocked for being too emotional (and then for women of colour there's an added layer to it. eg. the angry Black woman trope). I would hate for you to feel like you have to police your tone in here.

I disagree with the moderator point though. I think there is a slippery slope in moderation, and the moderation at GC (RIP GC) was pretty solid imo. I'd rather have people speak honestly (even if it sometimes hurts because it is necessary to have uncomfortable conversations), than be worried - yet again - about censorship of posts/opinions, etc.

Also, vegans unite!