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[–]venecia 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's good to feel virtuous and inclusive, especially as women who are raised thinking we have to think about everyone else before ourselves.

God fucking help you the day it dawns on you that people who proclaim to be one of us don't seem to want the burden of selfless sacrifice for the good of the group because they were never raised as women. The day you realize it's all about them, and they want to be considered women without any of the pesky downsides like deference and emotional labor that they still demand as if they were still men, and as if we are still women who owe these not-men endless emotional caretaking and eggshell walking.

Then it all falls into place.

[–]RuminatingOracle 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see that. And I would have been parroting TWAW in the past too. The absolute filth that has been piled on women from TRAs has changed my mind.