Ok so I’m new here but used to lurk on GC frequently on reddit before the ban. My peak trans journey started around 4-5 months ago when I happened to see a post on the AITA? Subreddit where a woman in a domestic violence shelter was asking if she was an AH for feeling triggered and unsafe by having to shower in the same space as pre op TiMs. The overwhelming majority of replies stated she was an AH. I was shocked at the lack of compassion shown to her in their responses. I thought I must be out of touch. Then a few months later I was chatting to a friend who brought up jk Rowling’s tweets, I had no idea what it was about So she explained briefly that JK Rowling was a raging transphobe for mocking the use of Trans inclusive language and then stated that biological sex was a thing. I couldn’t understand what the problem was, surely everyone including the trans community knew this right? But no I wasn’t aware of the radical trans ideology. My friend then started lecturing me on the new inclusive lingo training course she’d been on as part of her work. Cis woman?? Er ok. When pointed out that they couldn’t literally be women she parroted the “what about intersex people?”, What about them? when I pointed out that they had chromosomal or hormonal abnormalities rather than being a third sex she was non plussed as though she hadn’t thought about it beyond a slogan. She then said that she believed in trans rights and that they should be allowed in to ladies bathrooms and we should just get over it.

After that conversation I felt angry as though I’d been attacked and I didn’t know why because we hadn’t argued and she is a well meaning person. I decided to look into things more to try and understand but the more I did the more I fell down the GC rabbit hole. When I mentioned my concerns about transing kids, women’s protections in rape shelters, changing rooms, women’s representation in politics etc to my friend she simply said “do you think you are like this because you’ve had a baby? And because hormones?” Like WTF?? My concerns were just dismissed as hysterics by ... a woman! Now I understood why I was angry; my basic identity and rights as a woman are under attack, worse still from well meaning but slightly ignorant women who think they are feminists doing the right thing! I seriously hit peak trans from then on and have never looked back.