I peaked when I watched a transwoman on Youtube's talk about the time he was dating a straight man who didn't know he was trans. Surprise, surprise, when the man found out he was a transwoman with a penis, he was no longer willing to sleep with him. Apparently the guy was super nice about it, politely declined, didn't call him any names, etc. but he's still a transphobe because he wouldn't sleep with a man who has a penis. That shocked me. I mean, MAYBE you could claim transphobe if you didn't still have a penis, but come on. You expect a straight man to want to have sex with somebody who has a dick? Even if the man was bisexual so having a penis wouldn't have necessarily been a deal-breaker, I think we can all agree that being into someone who "looks" like a woman but still has a penis is a specific "preference" (kink).

That just proved to me most of their concerns are about validation. Getting a straight man to sleep with you as a transwoman must be so validating. Almost as validating as getting a lesbian who is a woman herself, to believe you're a woman too so she'll sleep with you. There's a reason they word "trap" is a thing. They literally try to trick people into thinking they're something they're not. Why not be upfront about it from the start? Oh yeah, because then everyone knows you're trans and the validation goes out the window. It's selfish and deceptive.