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[–]loona 69 insightful - 2 fun69 insightful - 1 fun70 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Got catfished by a "girl" from the LesbianGamers Discord. They were super flirty, clingy, went for dirty talk only after a few days... Kept asking me for a pic or to hear my voice, but I'm super paranoid when it comes to my physical privacy online. He kept bringing up subtle trans topics that had me questioning him, but I wasn't sure at the time and still thought they were a girl. Finally came out to me after 2 months of talking and I was so pissed they lied to me for that long. I felt so pressured and guilty into accepting them, into starting an online relationship with them (LOL), I kept giving hints that I wasn't really comfortable with all of this and wanted some space but they were so pushy telling me how much they liked me, how we had so much in common etc. I ended up distancing and blocking that person only for them to find a new girl shortly after lmao. Before blocking him, he sent me a really bad picture of himself, his hand covering most of his face and the only thing you can see is an eye and his long hair. Wasn't even taking hormones and had the audacity to tell me he 'passes' which honestly he didnt. I showed my little brother his picture and his first reaction was "That's a guy..."

At the time, I was afraid to be called a TERF because of the negative connotation and I was all for trans rights and equality. I realize now, as nice as he was, this was manipulative as hell. Now they recycle all the lesbian stereotypes like a cosplay for karma and stalk my socials/gaming profiles with the username I associate with; I'm kind of glad my Reddit handle that used the same username was banned so thats one less place he could find me...

After all of that, I started to realize just how many trans woman were actually in all of the lesbian communities I was in. Made me wonder how many other lesbians out there have gone through what I did and feel the same way. I'm not interested in dick. Not interested in neo vaginas. Not interested in male-presenting females or female-presenting males. Never will be. The term cis sounds actually stupid, and the fact that actual women need to be put into a subcategory as 'cis women' is even more stupid. All of the receipts I kept seeing on TerfIsASlur of pushy TRAs trying to guilt lesbians and woman into sleeping with them and the middle-aged anime weirdos at ItsAFetish was what started to peak me.

[–]bellatrixbells 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I hate it when they go "I pass". No, honey, people are being polite. Everyone can tell. But since everyone around call them ma'am and lady and she/her they think they have everyone fooled.
Like, what, no !

[–]loona 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's kind of sad how delusion these people actually are... Question that delusion and bam! DIE TERF!

[–]Bloommagical 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You should scrub your reddit account, search "delete reddit history" and run the plugin.

[–]loona 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh sis don't worry, first thing I did when I got home yesterday evening was downloading Google Chrome just so I could use the Nuke Reddit History extension! Reddit can go fuck themselves tbh, it's slowly turning into Tumblr...

[–]IamWomanHearMeRoar 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I remember reading a comment on one of those subs. The user mentioned that kind of behavior is found in cluster b personality types, and that most of these people with that personality turn out to be preadators/rapist. The user also noted that what they are doing is essentially rape too.

[–]loona 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Oh god, I went to do a quick read-up on cluster b personality types and it describes him perfectly. "--described those with this disorder as someone who, "struggles to relate to others."" This explains why he didn't get the lesbian u-haul joke until I explained it, then butchered the joke to death... Also found it a bit annoying that all my interests were stuff he was into, all of a sudden. Literally everything, he would try to make himself relatable to.

This is the first time I ever really shared my full story about the situation, and now that I think back on it, I really do feel preyed on. The thought is absolutely horrible and I can't believe I let myself get fooled like that...

[–]IamWomanHearMeRoar 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

: (. You’re in a safe space now with like minded individuals