So I'm new both to GC subs and this one in particular. I read the former reddit sub, along with r/itsafetish etc. For like half a year now. But I'm in very trans positive friend groups and I didn't dare come out in public with any of my doubts, so I shut up until now.

Peak trans was when I was dating a trans woman for the first time. I've dated in the past women who came out as trans men, which had bothered me, because I like women, not men, and I was pissed with the fact I now had to say my first love was a man and not a woman. But beyond that I didn't think much about it, and I had my little spot in the TWAW chorus. Going as far as saying cringe things like "I like everybody except TERFS" as a sexual orientation. Ugh. So I was dating this trans woman, who was, honestly, very sweet and very respectful. It's not at all their character that made me peak, more or less the opposite. As I was dating a trans woman and I didn't want to say bad things or trigger her I went deep into trans culture, trans subreddits, and stuff, to be the wokest I can.

Well let me tell you I really didn't like the fetishist side of it and the sissification and the threats of violence. I'm asexual and I hated how sexualized their attempts at looking like a woman were. I couldn't stand all those bulges in dainty little lingerie and those cute bras and those knee high socks. Gross. And such sterotypes. That's when I realized this was not right. That and the "transbian" fade. Makes my skin crawl. I hate that as lesbians we have to surrender more and more and more space for males in dresses to take it and demand they get in our panties. So that's what made me peak : trying to be more inclusive to my trans gf. It backfired. She dumped me because we were LDR and she wanted to see me constantly and I wasn't interested in that. So no great thing was lost here.

I now finally made an account here after the second wave of reddit bans. If there's a new itsafetish sub on saidit I'd love to have the link.

We have to stay strong.