Ask 30 Women posted such a statement as well. Man, did that make me feel unwelcome. That was my "peace-out losers" moment and haven't been on reddit since. This follows several instances of Tims offering their experiences in women's subs as if it were a relevant contribution. I'd had enough.

Like, who here has newly tried out not shaving thanks to COVID? I know I have and it's been...weird. I was really enjoying reading other women's experience with this and feeling less alone and then (insert record scratch or flatulence) someone posts "but shaving helps with my dysphoria."

I'm going to be less polite than I was even on r/gc. Fuck your "dysphoria." If leg shaving helps your dysphoria, I'mma conclude you don't actually have dysphoria. My grandmother didn't shave, she wore hose. My great grandmother didn't do either of those things. The poor Muslim girl in my middle school science class didn't shave and she was teased mercilessly for not shaving, but it makes me wonder, do dysphoric Muslim men get euphoric by actively not shaving? Are men from regions with little body hair pre-euphoric?

So, what was the point of the Tim's comment? While all of us gals were busy talking about performative femininity, how weird it feels, how we're getting used to it, how our significant other feelings about it make us feel, how society views us, this guy has to interrupt. Gotta stop that conversation to remind us that our performative femininity provides him with with a femininity to perform. And that's the important part. Never mind little girls getting teased for having long black arm and leg hair. It's a sacrifice he's willing to make.