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Meh, although the name of the sub is what it is, I think it's kind of a "socially acceptable" veneer that hides what it's really become. I tend to think most of the moderators know on some level that they're not going to marry prince charming, and would admit that if pressed. FDS frequently suggests remaining single if one's needs aren't met, and promote being single as a valid option, which most relationship subs do NOT suggest. They don't allow men to brigade and harass posters. FDS also promotes the idea that women can dump porn addicts, sexual abusers, etc.. They show screenshot examples of men playing games, picking them apart, pointing out the tricks men pull, which is kind of an education for less experienced women on there. At least it opens up the eyes of younger women as to the tricks and traps pick up artists try to pull-- so many subs are devoted towards twisting women into putting up with anything and everything. FDS also attracts/accepts demographics that are usually ignored or harassed on reddit-- women from outside "the west", women who are in extremely conservative families, women of color, religious minorities.

I could see it as a lily pad to help move onto more GC thinking. Unfortunately, most women are groomed from early on to think "landing a man" is the ultimate goal in life. They're going to gravitate towards relationship subs to begin with. At least FDS attracts them and then makes them question some of their assumptions.

If they presented themselves as a "feminist subreddit" of any flavor to begin with, they would deter many women (unfortunately) right from the get-go. The sub skirts the "you're a bitter feminazi!" accusation by claiming to be a dating sub, having some emphasis on looks, but they are also encouraging women to be successful and to take care of themselves in their own right.

They can be ban happy, but I can see why as they get trolled A LOT.

I could be totally wrong about my assessment, though, as I was wrong about the vitriol from... well, certain people GC often discussed.