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[–]FlickingMarvellous 41 insightful - 3 fun41 insightful - 2 fun42 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

You absolutely are not a bad person, but I’m not surprised you wonder if you’re crazy. It’s incredibly hard when otherwise rational people suddenly start spewing pseudoscience.

I’m in a similar boat to you, but with over a decade of marriage behind me. We’ve been sleeping in separate rooms since the JKR thing, and... I really don’t miss him, but I’d miss my house and animals if I left. No idea how it’s going to play out for me. Fingers crossed it turns out well for you.

[–]sosorreal[S] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Wow, that is rough. I suppose I am lucky that he and I aren't so linked up. I stayed with him last night mostly because he's all I have, and I care about him. But when I left this morning, I wondered if I'd ever be back.

[–]FlickingMarvellous 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Honestly, in your situation I’d be out of there.

I know what you mean about caring for him: I care for my husband, he’s not a bad person and we’re friends. Definitely feels more like a housemate than a spouse, though, these days.

[–]sosorreal[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

ugh, I hate it, yeah. It sucks to not be able to talk to the person you're with. I feel like I can't really be myself because I'm filtering this huge part of myself.