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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you. Interesting but disturbing, particularly all the parts about shame. It sounds like a very isolating environment for women.

I don’t wanna give off the impression that we’re still all in caravans barefoot and pregnant!

Not at all. It seems like misogyny is often the thing people hold onto for the longest even through changes in culture. And it seems like it always takes men so long to catch up when women are already moving on.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, shame culture is weird. When you’re responsible for the shame or honour of others it does become isolating. You gotta keep secrets if your kids or husband screw up within a very insular community which is a big risk for shame in itself. You tend to bear the punishments as well. Your child starts a fight and you don’t tell your husband? Well he heard about it and now you and your child are punished. You didn’t keep the fight a secret? Pfft still need to be punished cause you raised a kid that did a shameful thing!

The misogyny works for the men and they don’t want that to go away. They’re always the last to let go of misogyny.