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[–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Have you ever been around a male child in school of any sort? You can get bullied as a girl or a faggot for months for wearing a pink shirt.

Again, I am sorry this happened to you. But I am also curious about where & when it happened. (Sorry, maybe you have revealed it elsewhere, but I have no idea how old you are, though I understand you are from the USA.) When I was growing up in USA in the 1960s, my father & his friends used to wear bright pink corduroy golf pants, pink button-down shirts, pink polo shirts, pale pink & bright pink blazers, bright pink linen shorts, pink neckties & bowties in solids, checks, plaids & flowered patterns. My brother & ex-husband have always worn a lot of pink shirts, ties, shorts & so on. No one AFAIK has ever ridiculed them for it.

Going back to the 1950s & 60s, celebrities considered very masculine like Elvis Presley, Pat Boone, Bing Crosby, Andy Williams & Mick Jagger wore pink. No one thought anything of it. When I was a girl, I don't recall my sisters, me or any other girls being decked out in pink like little girls often are today. My most memorable dresses from childhood were a blue flowered one, various plaids or white ones worn for events like first communion, confirmation & various religious processionals. We wore blue & gray or green & gray plaid uniforms to school with navy blue or green wool blazers, & brown or green scouts uniforms. All the girls' PE uniforms were blue. All my & my sisters' & friends coats growing up were navy blue, light blue, brown or various watch plaids.

In my experience, hardly anyone took the stereotypes about pink being only for girls, & girls having an affinity for pink, seriously until the present century. When my own kids were born in the early 90s, the pink-blue toy stuff was just starting to be pushed by places like Toys'R'Us, but basically most of the parents I know ignored it. The toy strollers my sons had for their dolls & stuffed animals were pink; no one minded. They sometimes wore pink T shirts; no one cared.

BTW, the 1986 movie with Molly Ringwald, Pretty In Pink got its title from the 1981 song of the same name by the Psychedelic Furs from 1981. At the time, the pink in the Furs song was widely believed to a reference not to the color of clothing but to the color of naked (white people's) flesh, & particularly a woman's clitoris, inner labia and vaginal opening. Back then, mainstream "girly magazines" like Penthouse & Hustler were just starting to run color photo spreads of naked women that would "show pink," to use the expression used at the time. This was a big deal because historically mainstream porn magazines didn't show women's genital area at all; such mags were all about "T & A." When they started to show the pubic region it was a big deal, but the genitals were hidden coz women back then customarily kept their pubic hair. The only periodicals that showed female genitals previously were "hard core" porn rags, or Al Goldstein's "Screw," a publication on newsprint that only showed photos in black & white, hence "no pink."

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 2 insightful - 6 fun2 insightful - 5 fun3 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I started school in the late 80’s and lived in a small rural town in a very red state.

[–]MarkTwainiac 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks for the info. It helps to know how old a person is & what milieu he or she grew up in to get a sense of "where they are coming from" so to speak. And I think that when each of us takes the time to locate ourselves in history & geographically, it helps to stop us from making sweeping generalizations about all of "society" & "everyone" coz it reminds us that each one of us is a product of a particular era in history & a particular cultural milieu.