QT, if gender is innate to identity

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[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I’m not your therapist and cannot explain to you why a personality formed around a childhood trauma is not a valid or healthy personality, but damn that’s not healthy.

For general purposes, Unprocessed trauma being a formative factor is not healthy and ignore the fact that personality disorders and other mental health issues take root in that unprocessed trauma.

A personality is barely a personality when it is unable to exist without the trauma ever being addressed or processed. A healthy adult personality cannot come from a childs emotionally and cognitively immature reaction to a trauma.

What you describe sounds closer to bpd than anything regarding having a traumatic event shape your entire personality.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 6 fun1 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 6 fun -  (7 children)

That doesn’t discribe bpd at all. Again eith the ableism to attempt to discredit.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Guess you don’t know much about bpd sufferers then.

It’s not ableism. It’s pointing out a similar exposure to trauma and total lack of healthy coping mechanisms becoming a foundation for the personality. Where does that condemn or belittle the people it happens to? The disorders being discussed aren’t even disabilities lmao.

Where do I try to discredit anything? I’m not saying anybody in particular has any particular disorder. I’m saying the description given to me is similar to what my clients used to express. My clients who were all adults with BPD.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 6 fun1 insightful - 5 fun2 insightful - 6 fun -  (5 children)

It’s an adult hominem attack. Plainly. Not even a subtle one. You can’t walk it back.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

How?

Seriously, maybe it’s my autistic inability to see what I don’t intend but how is comparing two different disorders that stem from unprocessed trauma an attack, an insult, or anything other than a comparison?

Where do I say that this is a moral failure of the person suffering it? Where so I suggest they are lesser for it?

The lack of coping mechanism? Is that the alleged insult? Cause that’s just what happens when kids are traumatised and don’t get healthy role modelling or therapy. It’s not saying they fucked up and chose wrong.

Is it stemming from the popular idea that BPD=BAD so any mention of it is an attack? Cause that’s closer to an insult than what I’ve said.

Don’t just vaguely insist ‘this is an insult this is an attack’ tell me how I have made that mistake.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 5 fun1 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

Seriously, maybe it’s my autistic inability to see what I don’t intend but how is comparing two different disorders that stem from unprocessed trauma an attack, an insult, or anything other than a comparison?

Instead of actually discussing what I’ve said or addressing it you accuse me of having a mental illness which I don’t to deflect. It’s the platonic form of an ad hominem attack. There is no way it can be anything but an ad hominem attack. And a particularly bad one since you pickers disorders I don’t have when there are so many I do.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I didn’t accuse you of having anything. Read it again ya ding dong.

I’m saying the situation described sounds similar to what my bpd clients said. Jfc if I said it’s flu season you’d think I’m diagnosing you with the fuckin flu if you’re that heavily reading into things.

There’s plenty of ways it’s not an attack, you are simply incapable of engaging with anything that challenges you without interpreting it as an attack.

Shockingly, I’m not talking about you specifically when I discuss ideas and generalities I see in people. I’m sure it’s difficult for you to accept that I could possibly not be talking about you personally. This is why people say you are narcissistic. This is also different to saying you have NPD. People can have traits without it being a pathology. You are exhibiting traits of narcissism when you assume everything is about you personally.

I discussed a disorder and how some parts of it are similar to the story you told me. I weep for you if your comprehension is really that bad and that self directed.

[–]circlingmyownvoid2 1 insightful - 5 fun1 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

You can’t sidestep that many adhominem attacks and expect people to buy it.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m not side stepping anything because I made no attacks. Seethe about it til you die if you must but don’t bother me with repetition of nonsense. Say new nonsense, make a proper point, or go away please. At least quote precisely where I said you must have borderline personality disorder.