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[–]Juniperius 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Maybe tell them you’re trans yourself, idk

Ooh, good idea! If you're a pre-everything gay transman whose dysphoria would be triggered by intimacy with other trans people, then I think you're allowed to have boundaries.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That and dating another trans person isn’t validating

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

By the stories of young transmen and many detransitionares - it is not the case, needs and wants of transmen are often ignored if it will benefit transwomen. In general sex-based specifics in power relations are staying and transmen are receiving same treatment as women, while transwomen acting like selfish kind of men. Recently I saw video of "just starting detransition" lesbian, who started it when realized that she is being lied too and was dissapointed by her community - because she said "no" to transwoman, while was passing decently as man already, and was villified, at same time other transwoman said "no" to transwoman and everyone said it is fine. And in the end she did not felt that transition is helping her to escape misogyny and that her body even now is viewed as sexual object and "reward", and she is not seen as a human being, so she detransitioned.