Both: Are sexual stereotypes about men and women in the bedroom true?

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[–]worried19[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It sure does seem like a different world. By the time I was in my early teens, blowjobs were completely standard. Although I would hope that most decent guys don't actually ask for them, I bet a lot of girls and young women feel pressured to give them. I personally very much enjoy giving oral sex, but I have a serious aversion to the types of painful, degrading blowjobs that have been depicted in porn. Mutual and pleasurable oral exploration is quite different in my book.

Did men perform oral sex on women back then, or was that similarly more unusual? Did it seem as though men were invested in women's orgasms? I wonder how many girls nowadays have the experience of young teenage boys actually bringing them to orgasm through manual stimulation like that. I would assume not many.

Rather, it's incidental.

That's how I feel about it. I enjoy when my partner looks at me with lust and desire, of course, but my pleasure revolves around the entire sexual experience, physical, mental, and emotional.

[–]MarkTwainiac 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Did men perform oral sex on women back then, or was that similarly more unusual?

IME & the experience of women around my same age, men in the 70s, 80s, 90s & 2000s were very much into performing oral sex on women. Women often were the ones saying, "no thank you, not tonight."

Did it seem as though men were invested in women's orgasms?

Yes, very much so. Boys & men took pride in this & often bragged about it to others of their own sex.

[–]worried19[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish I could go back in time to the 70s. I feel like there must have been such a sense of hope about feminism back then. That there was this unlimited potential for things to get better for women. It's sad to know that things that regressed so dramatically since then, sexually and otherwise.