Both: Who do you identify with in public life, on gender?

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[–]ZveroboyAlinaIs clownfish a clown or a fish? 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I can't understand your question.

I don't identify as anyone. I just am. I am myself. I can be in "very manly cloths" or looks very feminine in dress. What does this mean? Than I am non-binary or what? I can't understand what do you mean.

Are there any people who are public figures who are looking like me? I guess maybe? I don't know anyone similar to myself, they all wearing different cloths or acting differently. Just women who I am admiring and having as an example? There a lot of them - and they are starting from very masculine and ending as very feminine. I don't understand why looks should have anything to do with personality. Very masculine woman can be as very kind and empathetic and very agressive and ignorant. Same with very feminine women - they can have a range of personalities. So this question just makes no sense to me, I don't know how to answer to it, because it just makes no sense.

[–]worried19[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The question is open to interpretation, but I like your take on it. It sounds like you identify with public figures based not on outer presentation, but on inner qualities.

[–]ZveroboyAlinaIs clownfish a clown or a fish? 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I don't identify with them, I admire them or have them as an example to aim for.

I think I only can identify with some heroines or heroes from books and some movies or TV series. Mostly with bland ones to be "self-inserted" and mostly to "imagine living that experience yourself", as in reality you live one life, but with books you can live hundreds. Sometimes heroines or heroes are very similarly acting to how I would act myself in those situations, so I can identify with them this way too, as it is almost like book or show is depicting me.

That's the only times when I "identify" with someone or as someone.

[–]worried19[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That makes sense, too. I have a feeling that's more common than not. Are there any women you do identify with in real life, or that you've ever identified with in the past?

[–]ZveroboyAlinaIs clownfish a clown or a fish? 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think it is possible at all, and in some countries impersonating is against the law.

I am not jealous person, so I see no reason to identify or imagine myself as someone else that I know or saw.

I someone said to me that they are identifying as some other person or with public person - I would recommend them to visit a therapist, as most likely they have some huge personality issues and are in a very strong distress and need help to calm down and accept themselves and reality.

If you mean "someone similar to me and achieved great results" - then looks does not matter, but the character matter. As I can change my looks and so do them. If you mean "representation of someone from same community as myself" - there a lot of bisexual women achieving great results. So it is not really an issue to me of finding representation - for lesbian women it is much worse. And both those situations I would not call with words - "identify with" or "identify as".