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[–]Juniperius 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

If "man" and "male" are terrible insults, we shouldn't be calling anyone those words. They should be unutterable in polite company, they should be bleeped out when people say them on TV. Words that are intrinsically slurs aren't normally justified by saying, "it's an insult for me but some people really are that thing." Imagine if we treated any other horrible slur that way. Well, if you call me a ***** that's one of the worst possible insults, but you can call that person by that word, because they really are a *****. It just doesn't work that way.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Words have different effect depending on who they are pointed on. Consider how society treats calling a girl pretty vs calling a boy pretty.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Can I ask, when dysphoric patients start getting treatment and therapy and discussing transitioning, do the therapists not do anything to help the patient learn to cope with these types of issues? Just coping mechanisms or something to help deal with either circumstances or people triggering you?

Meaning do they do anything to prepare you for situations where you may be called biologically accurate terms or just any type of situation where dysphoria is triggered or your sense of identity isn’t validated/affirmed?

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Personally when I was first in therapy it took me a long time to convince my first therapist to support hormones, largely because I would never pass and therefore would never be able to integrate socially, that’s why I went informed consent at first. Though she did eventually agree to backing hormones but only once I had already started. But she did suggest some generally coping mechanisms. Then again she has quite a terrible reputation and my ensuing therapists have done very differently so it’s hard to say.

As I’m not a therapist I can’t speak beyond my own experiences.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That’s fair. I was just wondering in general but I guess that’s a question to ask more openly. I’m just wondering, I would hope it would be a standard in treatment, but it kind of seems like it’s not. (Not because of your response, just things I’ve noticed other trans people here say)