GC: Is sexual attraction only based on genitals, or is there more to sexual attraction (e.g. attraction to secondary sexual characteristics, "femininity", "masculinity", etc)?

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[–]BiologyIsReal 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sexual orientation is based on sex. Genitals are a part on the attraction, but they are not the only thing that matters. Also, in the vast majority of the cases, we can tell wich kind of genitals someone has without pulling their pants down. While, secondary sex characteristics are not what defines sex, they're usually a good way to know someone's sex.

The people who insist that sexual orientation is really based on "gender identity" are mostly virtue signalling and don't practice what they preach. And the people whose dating life supposedly reflect this "inclusive" view are lying to themselves about they sexual orientations or are trying to satisfy their trans identified partners's need for "validation".

Finally, only males have a penis. Saying that a penis is "feminine" doesn't change that fact.

[–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think a lot of heterosexual and bi women do not find male genitals visually attractive; appealing to touch with the hands; nice to kiss, lick or suck; or nice smelling, either. Many het and bi girls and women find male genitals ugly, gross, smelly, funny-looking, and/or scary, in fact.

Male genitals just happen to be part of the kind of sexed bodies we are attracted to. They're part of the package, as it were LOL, but far from the whole package and far from the main attraction. If a man knows how to use his dick well, dicks can bring girls and women sexual pleasure - but most girls and women find fingers and mouths are better sources of sexual pleasure than dicks are.

And of course, testicles and the organs that make seminal fluid are important to females who want to have children either by or with a male. But that's a far cry from girls and women being attracted to testicles.

To suggest that girls and women who are sexually attracted to males are mainly or even largely attracted to male genitals per se is, IMO, a misrepresentation of female sexuality.

[–]anxietyaccount8 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe not "mainly attracted", but I would be genuinely surprised if a male-attracted woman did not find male genitals attractive at all. I have seen some women say they are grossed out by certain dicks, but it may be an issue of poor hygiene (?)