Both: What is the difference between a sexuality and a preference? What makes someone straight? What makes someone gay?

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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, I think there's probably a greater percentage of people who are not monosexual than is acknowledged.

That makes sense! I’m not sure if it’s possible to have a society that treats same-sex relationships as exactly the same because of the procreation thing, but even in a super accepting society, I feel like many bisexuals would just never explore it because it easier not to. I always wonder if evolution is making more of us gay or like me because we need to stop making so many people.

[–]worried19 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I feel like it would be the opposite. Right now there's a lot of stigma towards men exploring bisexuality, so if we had a society that actively encouraged same-sex relationships and expected men and boys to experiment with each other, I think we'd see a lot more of it. Men start off in the same social groups, they tend to experience libido in similar ways, and many already experiment even without social approval. I think we'd see an increase in that. But I don't think it would change the fact that the majority of men are predominantly heterosexual and would want to settle down with women for the long term.

I always wonder if evolution is making more of us gay or like me because we need to stop making so many people.

Interesting thought, but if that's the case it doesn't work so well because gay and trans people still have the same drive to procreate and raise kids. And of course they don't start out infertile. If evolution was trying to do that, you'd think it would make more people intersex instead.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You may be right. I’m not sure why I’m so negative about it.

Interesting thought, but if that's the case it doesn't work so well because gay and trans people still have the same drive to procreate and raise kids.

Gay people don’t want sex with people we can biologically have kids with though and trans people (like I was at least) avoided our genitals as much as possible. I feel like both those things make it really unusual for us to reproduce. I guess intersex would guarantee it though. It might be a silly thought.