Just for fun: Where are you on the scale?

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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I’m not sure if it comes up a lot, but we have two trans employees (even though we’re fairly small). There is one non-binary female and one trans woman who began transitioning at the beginning of last year (after her child was born so, uggh, but it’s not really my business, my heart breaks for her wife and child though). We have trainings around diversity and inclusion that feature some gender ideology. I don’t like words like “cis” or like everyone necessarily having a gender identity.

It sounds like you may not be super social (which is fine). I feel like the pronoun thing come up at some point, but it doesn’t have to be a whole thing necessarily, although it upsets me that it usually only get asked of GNC folks.

[–]worried19[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yikes, it's crazy that there would be three trans people, including you, at one small company. That shouldn't be statistically possible, but I suppose it's like those schools with dozens of trans kids in the same grade. Being driven by culture, not biology. Old-school transsexuals like yourself are outnumbered by everyone else.

I wouldn't say I'm a hermit, but the last time I spent time around tons of new people was in college, and that was a rural, evangelical-leaning college, so there were no gender questions there. And of course with bars and restaurants mostly shut down or not safe to be at, I haven't been out to socialize with friends in forever. I've got my friends from high school and college, my one friend here, and my partner's friends, and that's about it.

I know I'll be really upset if (I should probably say when) someone asks me that question. Hopefully I'll be able to brush it off without it affecting me too badly.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

And of course with bars and restaurants mostly shut down or not safe to be at, I haven't been out to socialize with friends in forever. I've got my friends from high school and college, my one friend here, and my partner's friends, and that's about it.

The pandemic has been so tough. Hopefully things will get back to normal so we can spend more time with friends in person. Zoom isn’t the same.

I know I'll be really upset if (I should probably say when) someone asks me that question. Hopefully I'll be able to brush it off without it affecting me too badly.

I’m sorry. It would totally be about them and not about you. Gender sux.

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hope things get back to normal at some point. I really miss my family. I talk to them on the phone, but I haven't seen them in person since Christmas.

I’m sorry. It would totally be about them and not about you. Gender sux.

Thanks. I'll try to remember that, when it happens. I don't mind being misgendered if someone thinks I'm a biological guy, but not if they look at me and just think I'm too masculine to be a "real" woman. I mean, hell, that's why I struggled so much in my teen years, believing that I was too much of a freak to be considered a normal female person. I don't get how this is passing for progressive at all. It's basically telling people you don't even know that you believe they're too masculine or too feminine to be valid members of their sex.